user表 大约10万条记录
|-uid-|-user-|----site------|
| 1 | test | ,master,   |
| 2 | user | ,master,test,|
 
product表 大约30万条记录
|-pid-|-product-|-puser-|
| 1 | order01 | test |
| 2 | order02 | user |
| 3 | order03 | user |

select * from product as p left join user as u on p.puser=u.user where user='test' or site like '%,test,%'

select * from product where pid in (
  select pid from product where user='test' join all (
    select pid from product as p left join user as u on p.puser=u.user where site like '%,test,%'
  )
)